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WHAT DO WE TEACH OUR KIDS VS WHAT SHOULD WE TEACH OUR KIDS.

The mind of a little one is like clay, it gets mold according to the shape of the container and maintains that shape throughout his life,once the clay dries out and  you try to change that shape, it will break. It not only adopts the shape of the container but also endorses the colour, nature, even good and bad attributes of that container. That container is actually the guardian of the kid. The schooling and coaching of childhood is so strong that it never loses its impact.


WHAT DO WE TEACH OUR KIDS:

  • In our society; the very first problem is that the problem never remains self sufficing, it rolls over to other people. If a mother has an issue of jealousy she will certainly teach it to her kids. I am not saying she will literally tell them "come on.. get jealous of them", she will even not admit she is jealous! But her actions will prove it by one way or another. For example, she might compare her kid to other kid. We have to know that everybody has some unique features of their own, everybody is superb in their own sphere. We cannot judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree.
  • We want them listen to us more and we hear them less. This is not the way. We have to listen to them, each and every time with best of our concentration. This will help them be self confident.
  • We have to give time to our kids. They not only need money but time also. Parent tends to be the emotional coach for their kids. 
  • We have to make them learn that being able to earn money does not make him complete human but being humane make him complete human. Character building should be the first priority. Career building is secondary; it is up to the child to work hard and select the field of his interest.
  • We are least bothered to answer the queries of our children if we do answer our kids, we do it with incomplete information. If a child is asking something we have to not only answer him but give him explanation as well. 

WHAT SHOULD WE TEACH OUR KIDS:

  • We should raise our kids with statements starting as "If you do.." not with those starting as "If you do not..". These two statements are very different with respect to the effect that it has on a young mind. 
  • We should not beat them. Beating makes them more vulnerable to negativities.
  • We stop our children from something bad or mischief and do not tell them the reason behind this. It could become easier for the child to act on what his parents say with reasons and evidences.
  • We should incline the mind of our young one towards books. A successful nation has the quality of reading. Facebook, instagram, tiktok can never groom a kid to be scholar, doctor, engineer writer, sportsman, leader. We must allow them but when they are mature enough, so that they do not waste time on social media.
  • Children must be guided in such a way so that they are addicted to knowledge gaining. Either from books or newspapers, when a person is eager to gain knowledge he do gain it because there lies thousand ways for him. But when he does not have interest in it, he will find thousand lame excuses.
  

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