Hadia Altaf

  Wisdom is not marked by wise words but by wise actions and for the wise actions, every action matters . It is like a process of refining a diamond from a coal_ polish, varnish and attention are required to attain it. Actions serve as those ropes that might drag someone to fairy meadows or to the hot water springs. They follow the “Tit for tat” rule, if you acted good, you will have good and vice versa. Every action matters because actions are the mirror of one’s mind. If you want to understand someone, examine his/her actions. They decide the future, present the past and portray the present of an individual. Each and every action really matters because they ultimately become the lifestyle of a person. Actions tend to become habits and habits collectively amalgamate into a lifestyle_ the very roots of human life, for which every soul strives hard to live to its fullest. In short, actions of an individual are an open book which is read, interpreted and reviewed by all. They are lik...

INFERIORITY COMPLEX THESE DAYS: As per my observations, insecurities these days are too much materialistic. No doubt, every kind of insecurity is fatal but materialistic one is like a tumor which eats away one's abilities, faith and willpower and I think these three things occupy second most important place in human life; first one is oxygen ofcourse. The victims ratio of this mental disorder is tilted more towards female gender because they easily get delighted with useless concepts such as fashion, clothes, shoes or in short wardrobe of others.  This happens when "the company" of the victim is different from his way of life. O ne cannot change his way of life just because of the exposure to "more adventurous, more modern or a better company" (according to the victim), rather he imagines it with himself, setting aside the real world, resultantly he "modernizes" the state of mind. OUTCOMES OF THIS STATE OF MIND: Resultantly, the victim retards himself ...

  Never specify a limit, dream limitless, aim interminable, work inestimable only then you will have your dreams, you will know your strength, you will recognize your potential. What in life puts a watermark, a tag, a full stop to dreams? One's ownself. Why should there be a need to measure what we really want? Desire for innumerables, then you will work for those and eventually you will have grip on those one day. Why I say  " NO limit for dreams" because 90% of the people fail not because they dreamed big but because they dreamed small... They succeeded in achieving small and were left behind in that circle of their comfort zone, never recognized what they really were capable of until they passed 40.  Never specify a comfort zone for yourself when you are between 20-25. The decisions you take now are the roads for your destinations named career. Only YOU know what you can do, only YOU know how high you can fly. If you have a limited approach to everything how will you k...

 Today's blog is going to be about patriotism. A very random one, which I have not prepared but just writing what I feel for my country.  There are counties, there are states and then there come nation states. Pakistan is a nation state because it came into being with the slogan of  being a nation. The sacrifices of the Muslims as well as non Muslims are not boxed from anyone and everyone knows about them. What we don't know is about our present and that is why we see our future vague. Pakistan is not any random country, it is the land of heroes! I will not just blindly claim things but I will provide evidences and I will make you learn very basic achievements of my beloved country... Let's start with natural beauty. Pakistan is among few countries to be blessed with all the four seasons. Its most beautiful region is northern. This part of the country is famous due to its amazing meadows, sky-high mountains including K-2, hundreds of rivers and lush green valleys. These p...

Words have the power to either lift you to the heavens or drag you to the ground.  Words are important because they are the influencers of actions. You act the way you speak. These words may be in the form of prayers, speeches, poetry etc. What I am going to discuss today is "Prayers" and "Poetry". What are prayers? In Islam or any other religion, there is an invisible and secret conversation between the creator and the created. This conversation might be closed from the whole world but could not be closed from the creator because we all know that He knows what is even in the core of our heart. The creator is like oxygen, you can't see him but you need him to survive. So when one prays, this prayer is not one sided that is why I am calling it a conversation, Allah replies if we listen, Allah answers if we question. What these prayers really do? They lift and carry the burden of one and makes one feel light, happy and satisfied. These prayers strengthen the faith...

Media is the main mean of mass communication these days. A common man accesses the world before him through media. This world includes politics, education, economy and much more of a country as well as the international system. Starting from the Pakistani local dramas. How do they portray our culture? Obviously through the message they convey. No doubt, they address social issues like in the dramas " Udari, Ruswai, Damsa" and many more, which is really appreciable of them. At the same time they show our living dishonorably in some dramas. They dispatch the image of university and public offices bluntly. This affects the mindset of a common man in a way that he refuses to send his children, more specifically daughters, to such institutes which affects the country eventually. Most of our dramas show upper class which is not so in Pakistan because more than 40%  of our public is even below the poverty line. The language, the dressing and living are not represented as Pakistani ...

SCOLDING IS EASY, APPRECIATION IS DIFFICULT.. HUMILIATING IS EASY, ENCOURAGING IS DIFFICULT.. SO WE DO WHAT IS EASY BECAUSE WE CANNOT AFFORD DIFFICULTIES!  Flying high does not require dragging others to the ground. The strongest of the flocks fly always together. We criticize, we belittle, we humiliate because we often like hiding our insecurities and jealousy by defaming others.The word “others” includes people from our family and class to the government officials. I am not saying that the hornless devils of society are angels but what I want to say is that we are now so used to condemning people for no reasons at all that we even don't realize we are wrong. For instance, if I am a Pakistani citizen it is my duty to obey the law then it is my right to shout for my rights. What do we do? We even have no manners to throw the litter in the dustbin and we keep on saying “ NA-EHL HAKUMAT ”. We cannot have a Prime Minister always with a stick standing by our sides, some responsibilitie...

What actually beauty is and w hat is our youth's perception of beauty? Anything which can be modified and reshaped is beautiful. Something which has a gap for correction is beautiful. Imperfections are beautiful!  Face, features, physique and physical appearance can never be beauty;as beauty can never have such a narrow stance. The things which are considered beautiful by us are "Needs" e.g. eyes to watch, hands to work, legs to walk. If you have all these things you should be grateful. Beauty is eternal which means that it never withers away and never gets old. That which you show to people with filters can never be beauty... Beauty is good manners, beauty is a good heart, beauty is a loyal friend and indeed mother is beauty. Beauty has no specific definition because anything which soothes your soul is beauty for you. What happens if concept of beauty is wronged? When we perceive beauty wrongly, we commit huge mistakes then. Like we even see love with wrong concept, we e...

WHAT IS LEADER? Leader is the one who unites people under one slogan and grooms them, encourages them and makes them prepare for the upcoming results whether good or bad. If there is no leader then there is no order. Leader is the guidance for the path of truth . Even if there is a leader but not a dignified one, then this is also dangerous because the whole of the nation relies on his shoulders. In short, what I want to say is  Leader does not just mean a person who is followed but it means a ray of light which paves the way for the success of its nation. To check the credibility of leader one should  test him with contemporary situations of that specific era. MOHAMMAD ALI JINNAH AND PAKISTAN: Going back to the situation of the subcontinent; the Subcontinent was ruled by British. It was a colony of the Great British empire. There were three main nations living there i.e Britishers, Hindus and Muslims. Both the Britishers and Hindus were getting modern Education of that time w...

LIVES ARE GIVEN AND TAKEN BY GOD, OUR AIM MUST BE TO LIVE IT NOT TO RULE IT... What is the thing which makes human so helpless that he even denies his own life? To me the most precious thing which I care about most is my breath, my life. If a person is capable to muster up such courage to give up on his own life, he must be depressed this much. Now what might be the reasons for depression. For me, the top most reason is that there are no listeners left in the society. In today's world, we might live in same house but we are separated by the walls of social media. We barely have family talks. Even if we contact our friends and relatives, we do it for our own "Transactional causes"_ you give I take, I give you take. Even I have experienced that many of my close friends and relatives do not call or message me until they have their own interest in doing so . What happens when there are no listeners? That listener might be a close friend to the depressed one. As a result, the ...

CONCEPT OF MARRIAGES IN VARIOUS RELIGIONS AND ISLAM: Many of us think that Islam is the only religion which allows a man to have more than one wives but it is not so. In fact Islam is the only religion which allows a man to have one wife if he cannot do justice , other religions have allowed men to marry as much women as they want without any terms and conditions. It is the law which have restricted men to one wife in certain countries like India ( Indian Penal court in 1954 put a restriction and said under the Hindu Special Marriage Act that a Hindu man  should marry only one woman). If you read Hindu scriptures (Mahabharat) you would come to know that Shri Krishn had 16,108 wives. Quran says in Surah Al-Nisa Chapter 4, verse 3: "Marry women of your choice in twos threes or fours but if you cannot do justice marry only one."   Now the question is why does Islam allow man to marry more than one woman. If we analyze scientifically; female children  are stronger than male ...

The mind of a little one is like clay, it gets mold according to the shape of the container and maintains that shape throughout his life,once the clay dries out and  you try to change that shape, it will break. It not only adopts the shape of the container but also endorses the colour, nature, even good and bad attributes of that container. That container is actually the guardian of the kid. The schooling and coaching of childhood is so strong that it never loses its impact. WHAT DO WE TEACH OUR KIDS: In our society; the very first problem is that the problem never remains self sufficing, it rolls over to other people. If a mother has an issue of jealousy she will certainly teach it to her kids. I am not saying she will literally tell them "come on.. get jealous of them", she will even not admit she is jealous! But her actions will prove it by one way or another. For example, she might compare her kid to other kid. We have to know that everybody has some unique features of th...

What does rain teach us? Not to stop Not to break Not to judge Not to hate Not to fall till the end... Give the life to the dead Give the hope to the rest Give the reds to the blues Give the love to the hates Give the colour to the greys...

Islam is the best of all religions because it not only teaches the way of life but also how to achieve that state. Let us take a very simple example; suppose there is a big gang, a mafia which has police in its pocket and this mafia rob, robbery is a bad thing, we all know that. It is bad because it hurts the victim, the robbed. But there is no single evidence which might prove it is bad for the robber without the concept of someone who is watching each and everyone of us, who keeps the record, who do not spare the one who do injustice in any case! Here comes the need for a belief, for a faith in some super natural thing who is not corrupt and who is not biased. There are many religions in this world; major ones are Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Judaism. All of them consider robbery bad, wrong and immoral but Islam is the only one religion which has a law as strict for this act so as this crime need not to be committed in any case. In Quran; s urah al ma'idah chapter 5, verse 38, ...

PRE-ISLAMIC WOMEN:  Islam is the religion which provided women their due rights 1400 years ago. Back in history, in Babylonian civilization, when a man committed murder instead of him being punished his wife was  put to death. In Greek civilization, they had a mythological creature who was a woman named 'Pandora', she was the cause for misfortune and evil in society. When Roman civilization was at its peak, man was even permitted to kill his wife. Egyptian civilization considered women as a sign of the devil. When we read the Arab civilization before Islam, when baby girls were born they were buried alive.  Before coming to my topic I would like to clarify a misconception. One who wants to see the status of a woman in Islam should see the authentic sources for it which are Quran and Hadith. Judging  the status of women in Islam on the bases of what Muslims do or not do to their women is wrong. Islam is second most followed religion in the world, about 2 billion ...

Why is our youth so desperate to jump into western lifestyles? In my opinion, the reason behind their this will is their  "Enslaved thoughts". We have been a colony to the west, used by them, not used but actually DRAINED out of our resources by them. The westerns have colonized us in different ways. This was not a one day process, they slow poisoned our minds. They colonized us and then provided different means of needs and attractions to us. They made us stand in a position where we could not even turn on a light without their assistance because this light too is their invention. The households, cars, aeroplanes, electronic devices and even medicines are all their inventions and without them we consider our survival impossible. So as we are controlled this way, we got slowly and gradually admired by them, started following them and at the end want to be like them. In this way they caged our minds. They made us disbelieve in our own selves. Dependency to me is more chroni...

let it fly with no chains of prison let it bloom with no thorns of harm let it flourish with no fear of failure let it live with no bonds of death let it love with none of a hate let it fall to get up let it go not with the flow but to make its own flow you will see then; it will fly higher than mountains it will bloom more than roses it will flourish more than success it will live more than life it will love more than god you just have to let it go,with a crunch of belief and a touch of trust..  let it go!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:  It means the rude, violent and aggressive behavior in home, of a partner of course. The partner is not necessarily a man it can be woman too. Reasons for domestic violence: In my opinion the foremost reason for the violence from a man's side is unemployment. It is a part of human nature that whenever he or she is not busy with the work they do, they tend to get disturbed. Now this disturbance can formulate its shape in any dangerous way because humans are attracted more towards negativity than positivity  as it is in their nature. For a typical man the best way to bust his anger is to rush up on his wife. To beat her, humiliate her and torture her.Other reasons include over thinking, drug addiction, poverty and interest in other woman. Same violence can also be seen from a woman's side but the cases are very rare like one in a million. Reasons might be drug addiction, over thinking, psychiatric or the woman might have interest somewhere else. Imp...